You’re in Charge of Your Own Happiness – Make the Most of It! By Kathleen Lamoureux
16 Sep 2010 2 Comments
in Acceptance, Happiness, Law of Attraction, Self Discovery Tags: happiness
Being happy is an inherent and fundamental gift that we all have within us. Being happy is an emotion and a state of mind and well-being. Being “happy” can range anywhere from a state of contentment to the state of intense joy. However, the fact remains that many individuals are unhappy or not as happy as they could be. The concept of happiness, or what it means to be happy is sometimes difficult to grasp and hold onto day-to-day. It can remain elusive and sometimes, the truth is that we can be ignorant to the definition of happiness or what it means to be truly “happy”.
Have you ever thought about or compared your own happiness to the analogy ‘Life Is A Bowl of Cherries’? What goes through your mind when hear that expression? Do you have the tenancy to look at your happiness as a bowl of cherries that are just full of nothing but pits. Do you find yourself wondering:
1. Where are my bowl of cherries?
2. How do I get my hands on my bowl of cherries?
3. Can I have a bowl of cherries all the time?
4. What do I do with the pits?
Do you find yourself wondering if your fair share of cherries has been delivered at frequent enough intervals and that they are abundant in your life on a regular basis? Or do you think that life is just a big fat bowl of pits and your life is lacking in abundance?
Here’s the good news. All pits must be removed from the cherry in order to partake of its delicious fruit. The thing with cherries is that they provide pleasure – but they come with a little task that requires a little effort to get to the pleasure.
ACCEPTING THE GOOD WITH THE BAD
Life is not always a smooth road and can be filled with lots of pits. What are you going to do when you run into a pit in the road? You can choose the negative path and believe that your road is always filled with or in the pits, or you can take the positive path by stepping over the pits!
YIN VS YANG
Everything in life has Yin and Yang aspects. Let’s compare happiness to Yin and Yang. Yin is the shady side of the hill, while Yang is the sunny side of the hill. In order to be happy, which one will you choose? Well that depends on you and your state of mind or being on any given day. Some days you might need sunshine and warmth, and on other days, you might need the coolness of the shade.
Therefore, happiness is about perspective. In order for you to change your perspective, you might want to see your life as a bowl of cherries and never mind the pits; or you might want to sit on the sunny side of the hill today and rev up your energy, but tomorrow you might want to be in the shade and let the coolness calm your mind and body.
YOUR INNER RESOURCE IS YOUR MIND
The Dalai Lama said this “We pay too much concern to material things and neglect our inner resources.”
You have the power to be happy. Happy can be as simple as being grateful for a day that is sunny and warm, or that you have good friends and family to support you, or the vision of a beautiful sunset, or the smell of a rose. You can choose many things to be happy. It’s up to you – the mind is a powerful thing not to be ignored. “Happiness is a state of mind.” You have it within your own mind to be in charge of your happiness scale. Is it going to be a 1 or a 10? It’s up to you, but I say this:
Choose TO BE HAPPY!
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After the Divorce – Trust After Marital Infidelity
18 Aug 2010 3 Comments
in Divorce, EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), Infidelity, Life Transitions, Self Discovery, Trust Tags: after the divorce, divorce, EFT, emotional freedom technique, Infidelity, Law of Attraction, marital infidelity, moving on after divorce, Trust, trust after infidelity
If you’ve been the victim of marital infidelity and are now working through the divorce; healing infidelity can be a daunting process. As much as you think to yourself, how will I move on? There will come a time when you will be interested in dating again, therefore trust after infidelity is crucial to your long term relationship success with another partner.
Before you consider dating again, you may want to heal those residual effects of infidelity. Keep in mind that all those self- defeating voices you hear in your head while you’re dealing with infidelity do serve a purpose, they indicate that you need to do some inner work as part of the divorce process. They point out what areas need attention and where you need to focus your release work efforts.
The voice whispers to us numerous lies like You’re not good enough, you’re unlovable, you’re too old to attract a new partner, you’re not attractive enough to date, you were the reason why he cheated, and so on. The main thing to consider is this, an unhappy relationship may be the excuse your ex used as the reason for the infidelity, but frankly it was more likely a problem within him/herself that he/she couldn’t address. When we enter in a monogamous relationship, it’s a contract, a contract that both parties agree to and most of the time it is implied or stated that it is a monogamous union. Breaking that trust causes so much emotional harm to both parties of the infidelity. The cheating spouse could face infidelity guilt, while the one having been cheated on will now have to face betrayal issues, trust issues, and decreased self-esteem usually as a result of the infidelity. These issues will surface again and again in future relationships unless we deal with them head on and at the root – our emotional and energy bodies.
It’s easy to say, “I am over the betrayal from my ex, I have moved on.” But it’s entirely another thing to actually be over the pain and the side effects of infidelity. This is where emotional release tools are so successful in healing the trauma, the limited beliefs, and self- sabotaging tendencies. We need to release the trauma from our emotional bodies, because that is where we feel the pain.
One of the most successful tools for releasing stored emotional trauma is Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT). Scientific studies have shown that EFT is able to rapidly reduce the emotional impact of memories and incidents that trigger emotional distress. When you release the emotional pain and other issues surrounding the infidelity, you are able to trust again and move on. Once this is achieved, it will be easier to open your heart and fully trust your new partner.
Your Life Train at Transition Station
15 Jul 2010 3 Comments
in Law of Attraction, Life Transitions, Self Discovery Tags: attitude of gratitude, divorce, journal, journaling, life transitions, new opportunity, transitional life, transitional life coach
So what happens when you’re cruising in the luxury cabin of your life train and it stops at Transition Station? Get this, the conductor boots you off the train and dumps your Louis Vuitton set at your feet. You search your pockets and purse for your tickets and itinerary but they both have mysteriously disappeared along with your wallet. So now what do you do? You are standing alone, behind a mountain of baggage at Transition Station with no idea of where you are going, how you will get there and no American Express even though you never leave home without it.
STOP! Cue the chorus of angels and foggy mist sweeping through the platforms. Here comes the cavalry! Hopefully you have supportive family and friends who lend a hand. However, when you find yourself at one of those transition stations, a transitional life coach can be just what the doctor ordered to help you find your way objectively while at the same time you’re feeling safe and nurtured in the process.
Here are a few suggestions if you find yourself already at Transition Station or if you know it’s your next stop:
1. Breathe – Stop what you are doing right now and take a deep breath in and out, and another, and a third, heck grab an oxygen tank if necessary. Deep breathing helps you get back in tune with your own inner guidance and allows your body to start releasing the stress and anxiety that you are feeling.
2. List it! – There is a reason why you are going through these changes now, but you don’t have to know the reasons. Just realize that you are receiving a great gift of opportunity now. So, pull out your journal, grab your favorite pen, set your timer for 10 minutes and write down everything that you love, makes you happy and/or you dream of doing. The rule here is to let your imagination guide your pen. Once the timer goes off, read your list and after each item say, “I now have the opportunity to have this. Thank you.”
3. You time – Many life transitions can be difficult so it’s time to pamper yourself. Scary thought, isn’t it, especially if you spent most of your life taking care of other people. That’s all changed now that you are at Transition Station. When you put yourself first and take the time to nurture all parts of yourself, you are letting the Universe know that you are worthy to be, do or have anything you want. (Refer to your list.) So, book your spa appointments, go to a comedy club or see a laugh out loud funny movie, try that new restaurant and let your dog pick the path for your next walk. Just remember to love yourself along the way.
4. Attitude of Gratitude – This one can be tough especially if a bulldozer trashed the road behind you but remember that things are not always what they appear to be. What you might perceive as dark times are in reality gifts. I know what you’re thinking, “Can I exchange them?” Not a chance. You received these gifts whether you remember asking for them or not. So go to the center of Transition Station. Stand up on one of the benches and shout out for all to hear, “I am grateful for this time of transition in my life. I am grateful for all the opportunities that will come way. Thank you.”
5. Call in the Cavalry – You don’t have to navigate your way through Transition Station by yourself. You are never alone even if it feels like it. You have friends and family to help you along the way and of course your transitional life coach. We all go through transitions of different magnitudes throughout our lives; the key is to see the opportunities that transition presents to us and the new doors that will open for us.
Keep in mind -it’s not the destination, it’s the journey. All aboard!
What is Your Relationship with Money?
13 Jul 2010 1 Comment
in EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), Law of Attraction, money, Self Discovery Tags: attracting money, attracting wealth, EFT, eft for money, Law of Attraction, law of attraction and money, manifesting money, manifesting wealth, money, money relationship, poverty consciousness, prosperity consciousness
Top 10 Ways to Attract Your Soulmate
26 Jun 2010 3 Comments
in Acceptance, EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), Law of Attraction, Self Discovery, Soulmate Attraction, Unconditional love, Universal Laws Tags: attracting your soulmate, creating an ideal relationship, creating and manifesting a relationship, EFT, ideal relationship, Law of Attraction, law of attraction coaching, manifesting a relationship, manifesting a soulmate, relationships, soulmate
Attracting your soulmate doesn’t have to be for the lucky ones. You can deliberately create an ideal relationship with the partner of your dreams. Over the years, by working on myself and with clients through law of attraction coaching, I have discovered my own magical formula to help you attract your soulmate and it doesn’t involve waving a magic wand or speaking into a mirror…well sometimes it does but that’s another story!
First off, think about a massive 5000 item salad bar. When you walk down the aisle to put the various toppings on your bed of lettuce you pick and choose only the items that you like. Imagine you have a very large plate and everything you want on your salad will fit on the plate and is present on this salad bar. Also keep in mind that you have no doubts that your favorite toppings will be available as you stroll along salad bar heaven. By the time you get to the end of the line, you have created a masterpiece and your salad is completely by your design, that is law of attraction. It’s the same way with selecting qualities that you desire in a partner. Your soulmate is by your design and there is someone out there that is a perfect fit. Your main job is to tell the Universe what you want in a partner AND in a relationship. This brings us to number one.
1. List It –The more specific you are the more the universe will understand what you want. Don’t be afraid to shoot for the moon. Let your imagination run free. Get in the mood if you have to; put on your favorite romantic music, light some candles, watch your favorite romantic comedy. Just sit back, relax and let your imagination take the reins.
If you are having some difficulties listing then your next step would be to discover your clarity through contrast.
2. Contrast & Clarity – This is a helpful law of attraction exercise. Pull out a fresh piece of paper or go to a new page in your notebook. Go to the middle of the page and draw a vertical line down the center. The left side is contrast and the right side is clarity. On the left side, list all of the qualities you don’t want in a soulmate or what you don’t want in a relationship. Don’t focus on the contrast. Simply list them. Next go to the right side and list the opposites or what you do want in a soulmate or a relationship. The contrast helps you see the clarity in more light. When you are finished, rip off the contrast side and throw it away. Now focus your attention and intention on the clarity – your soulmate!
3. Forgiveness – Through law of attraction coaching, I have noticed that many people, including myself, underestimate the power of forgiveness. It is vitally important when attracting your soulmate to forgive others as well as yourself. When you hold on to the emotional charges around past loves, past relationships and even self blame, you create a wall around yourself which blocks your soulmate from coming to you. Forgiveness allows you to take your power back, release the past and make room for the new – your soulmate!
The 4th step is one of the most important and crucial ingredients to attracting your soulmate using law of attraction.
4. Get Rid of the Baggage! – The baggage that we carry around is really our own negative or limiting beliefs about ourselves, about love, about relationships, well about everything really. The baggage is also old emotional wounds that are still caught up in our body and mind. Carrying around this baggage can bog you down and create a layer of gunk that keeps you from attracting your soulmate. I have experienced the most success in getting rid of the baggage with clients and in my own life through EFT, Emotional Freedom Technique. To read more about EFT, visit the official EFT website: www.EFTuniverse.com.
5. Release the Need – This means not needing someone in your life to complete you or fill any voids in your life. You are a complete and whole person and at the same time, you are constantly evolving and growing. In this step, you continue to work on yourself and your past baggage. Remember, your goal is not perfection. Your goal is awareness of yourself and of the issues that you need to work on. EFT is very helpful with this as well.
6. Create a Vacuum – If your schedule is so packed that you don’t have any time for a partner, then there’s no room for one to enter. In this step it is imperative to make room in your schedule and your home for your soulmate. You are creating a void, and the universe will do what it takes to fill this void. Some suggestions are: clear out a few drawers, make room in your closet, sleep on one side of the bed, park on one side of the driveway not in the middle. The universe will jump to action to fill the space with your soulmate.
7. Live Authentically by living your truth – It’s really important to let your essence shine. It is so important to be YOU, be your authentic self, not play some dating game and put on an alter persona to get a partner hooked and then three months down the line you surprise him/her with the ‘real you’. This brings up the question: How much do I love myself? Do I love myself enough to honor the truth of who I am, what I want in life, what I want in a partner, etc? ” If we are living authentically the universe can only support us. It’s when we live un-authentically that we run into all sorts of relationship problems.
8. Living and Feeling As If – Live as if your Soulmate is already in your life. Live in a state of having your soulmate, not wanting a soulmate. Know that your soulmate is with you in vibrational form and believe that the physical form is on its way. Feel As If means feel your soulmate with all five senses. Take time each day to visualize your soulmate and infuse that visualization with details. What does it feel like to eat dinner with your soulmate? What does it feel like it to watch a movie with your soulmate? When you engage the feeling aspect of having, you are really revving up your manifesting power because you are now becoming in alignment with your desires. You are resonating at a place of where you desire to be as if you are living it and that, in turn, raises your vibration to the place of Having not Wanting and that will will put you in soulmate attraction mode!
9. Gratitude – Everyday you should take some time to be grateful for all that you have in your life and all that you will have, once again as if you already have it. By being in the place of gratitude you raise your vibration, thus putting you more in alignment with your desires.
10. Detach and Allow – Release your desire to the universe and trust that your soulmate is on the way.
So are you ready to get rid of the baggage and get busy attracting your soulmate?
Oh what’s that I hear? Ding Dong … guess who’s at the door?
Manifesting your Soulmate
22 May 2010 7 Comments
in Acceptance, EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), Law of Attraction, Self Discovery, Soulmate Attraction, Unconditional love Tags: attracting a soulmate, attracting The ONE, attraction, creating and manifesting a relationship, dating, deliberate creation, EFT, EFT and law of attraction, emotional freedom technique, emotional freedom technique and law of attraction, Law of Attraction, law of attraction and love, law of attraction and relationships, love, manifesting, manifesting a soulmate, Soulmate Attraction
Manifesting your Soulmate
After being in an unhappy marriage for 18 years, I finally had the courage to call it quits. It takes great strength to leave something you know, no matter how miserable you are in a situation, not to mention venturing out into a brand new world complete with internet dating, tweets, blogs and email. I was 43 yrs old with an eight year old son. Sometimes I would ask myself, “Who would want me at my age?” But something inside me kept telling me that the Right person was out there for me, I just had to believe it and FEEL IT!
As I studied the law of attraction more seriously, I realized that I truly wanted to attract THE ONE. I didn’t want to attract by default someone to date, someone to hang out with or someone to sleep with, but I honestly wanted to attract the ONE that would fit me perfectly.
My first step to manifesting my soulmate would be to become very clear on what I wanted in a partner and a relationship. I imagined how it felt to have him in my life. I made it a practice to feel him in my life even though in physical form he hadn’t arrived yet.
Everyday I would visualize our partnership, feel our love, and laugh at our silliness! It felt amazing!
The next, and probably the biggest step to manifesting my soulmate, would be to release old emotional wounds. And boy did I have a lot of them! I had some serious damage, even though I hid it well. I used Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) to uncover and release the stored up pain that was secretly buried in my energy and emotional body. This hidden gunk was creating resistance in my manifesting capabilities. Once I released it, the door opened with such great force that within two weeks my soulmate, Dana, came rushing in. He found me on an internet dating site by the way, I guess I had adapted to the new world of cyber dating!
When I reflect back at my dreams of a soulmate, my clarification process and my musings of how a relationship should feel to me, I realize that I truly have manifested the man and relationship of my dreams. It is even better than I expected, sillier than expected and much more delicious than expected!
If I can do it, anyone can do it!
More tips on attracting THE ONE: www.magicallivingcoaching.com/LawofAttractionandLove.html
What do you think is the most Challenging Universal Law?
12 Mar 2010 1 Comment
in Acceptance, Law of Attraction, Self Discovery, Unconditional love, Universal Laws
What do you think is the most challenging Universal Law?
There are numerous Universal Laws that are a part of the quantum soup that make up our lives here in our plane of existence. The Law of Attraction is probably the most well known of the laws. There is so much discussion about the Law of Attraction that sometimes we forget the other, very important, laws that play an integral part in our lives. These other laws, along with Law of Attraction, actually enable us to manifest our desires.
Let’s start off with a description of Law of Attraction. This is probably the most powerful Universal Law. It acts like a boomerang. What thoughts and feelings you project out into the Universe, the same vibrational energy of that thought or feeling is brought back to you. We are all using the Law of Attraction in our daily lives; however some of us are not aware of it, or consciously utilizing it to our benefit. It’s when we do focus on our thoughts and intentions in a deliberate manner in order to bring about a desired outcome; we are using The Law of Deliberate Intent and truly using Law of Attraction to our benefit. The Law of Deliberate Intent is being a deliberate creator as opposed to creating your life by default.
Other Universal laws include, but not limited to: The Law of Sufficiency and Abundance, The Law of Pure Potentiality, The Law of Detachment, and the Law of Gratitude and Appreciation.
The next law is probably the most challenging of all the Universal Laws, one that gets the most rise out of people. It is the Law of Allowing. The Law of Allowing equals freedom. You may ask, “how so?” By allowing yourself to be your true authentic self you are offering unconditional love to you, which is the emotion that creates the highest vibration that there is. Here’s the catch, not only is it allowing and accepting ourselves to be who we are but also accepting others for who they are. By allowing others to be their unique selves we are also extending unconditional love to them. However, when we have the need to have others feel and behave just as we do, we are coming from a place of judgment, judgment stems from fear and those emotions are of a lower vibrational energy. Thus, attracting lower vibrational situations into our lives. When we release the need to ‘control’ every circumstance or the people in our lives we are allowing the universe to deliver our desires in an unrestricted way and honoring those around us. When we are not allowing we are resisting. When we are resisting, we are not manifesting our desires. You can see why this law is extremely important. It probably is one of the most challenging laws to embrace. We all learn at an early age how to gain approval and affection from others by being who we think they want us to be and acting in ways to please them. Instead what we need to focus on is ‘who we are’, and learn acceptance of others, when they are simply being ‘who they are’. When you have a difficult time with this law, here is a cool trick to start seeing more of those positive qualities of a person you are around daily: It’s called the Positive Aspects book. Find a new journal and create pages for those people in your life that you would like to feel better about. Only write down the positive qualities of this person, come on I know you can find some about your co-worker, perhaps she is a really good mom. How does it make you feel when you write about her good qualities? Remember you are focusing on her good qualities ONLY, and leaving out her negative ones. When you write the positive qualities down on the paper, bring yourself into a place of feeling those qualities in your body. How does it feel to appreciate someone for the things you truly like about them? Do this for 15 minutes a day on people that are in your life. Have designated pages for each person. Spend your time feeling the good characteristics. After a few days of doing this consistently, you will begin to see more of the positive and less of the negative qualities of these people.
Is it a Sign or is it Law of Attraction?
05 Mar 2010 1 Comment
in Law of Attraction, Soulmate Attraction Tags: attracting a soulmate, attraction, creating and manifesting a relationship, Law of Attraction, law of attraction and love, law of attraction and relationships, love, signs, signs from the universe, Soulmate Attraction
Is it a Sign or is it Law of Attraction?
Have you ever been so unsure of a decision that you needed to make, or a direction you needed to take in your life that you didn’t quite know where to turn? Many people who are faced with these kinds of dilemmas turn to signs. Signs from Nature, signs from God, signs from the Universe (whatever force you resonate with) some believe that a sign will come if they ask for it.
As a result of the asking, the signs very often show up, or simply show up by their absence. Now here’s a new twist to the theory of signs and guideposts. If you are believer in the Universal law based on attraction, the law of attraction in other words, then simply by the attention and intention we will create those signs to appear in our lives. If, for example, there are two paths to take, one is definitely more appealing, the other is not so appealing but may have certain benefits to taking. So I ask the Universe to show me a sign. We can be as specific in the asking of the sign or as vague, either way if we ask for a clear sign of which road to travel, then it is my opinion that a sign for the path that we truly consciously or unconsciously desire, will appear. Then the question is this: Is it the sign or is it Law of Attraction? I would have to say that it is law of attraction. Due to our asking, the Universe delivered the sign. Due to our desire we saw the sign we wanted to see, or not see.
The absence of a sign is just as much a sign as the delivery of a sign. Once again it falls under the same principles, how much do we really want to see the sign correlating to the direction we need to take?
A perfect way to sum up this debate is by one simple quote I have created:
“If you ask for a sign because you are unsure of your path, then a sign will show up if it’s the path you desire. If you really don’t want to take that path then a sign will clearly be absent!”
One perfect example is the woman who was in an unfulfilling relationship with a man who lived in a different town, they were basically pen pals, she felt a strong connection, but they were not at the relationship phase. She truly believed they would make a wonderful pair, and that he could be the one for her. She asked the Universe for a sign, the sign of 3 separate incidences of seeing red roses within a few day period if he was the man for her. She also suggests white if they are not meant to be. The first day goes by she sees a white rose bouquet on the television. She immediately panics and feels that he is right for her, so she puts her hopes to the outcome of seeing red roses next. Sure enough her desire produced three separate incidences of bouquets of red roses over a span of a few days. Well there you have it she thought, “he is the man for me, just like I had suspected.” Well to make a long story short, he wasn’t the man for her, they weren’t meant to be together no matter how many signs that appeared. Those signs appeared because of her strong desire for them to appear. After realizing what she had manifested- signs- which proved to her that law of attraction was the culprit here, not the universe sending messages of fate, she went back to looking at whether or not her needs were being met and what she truly was looking to attract in a relationship. She knew she deserved more than this, she needed to be true to herself.
Once she released this unfulfilling “friendship” and was very clear about what it is she wanted in a Soulmate and in a relationship, as she vowed she would accept no less, within two weeks her real Soulmate appeared out of the blue! They are now happily living together. The two of them have the same perspective about what a relationship should look like and how it should feel. He even fits her description of the type of man she wanted, right down to their shared vegetarian lifestyle. So to me the answer is a simple one: Signs or Law of Attraction ~ Law of Attraction all the way… and by the way this woman is ME!
EFT for Weight Loss
04 Mar 2010 1 Comment
in EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) Tags: EFT, emotional freedom technique, Law of Attraction, weight loss
Have you declared your New Year’s Resolution to lose weight? If you did, you are not alone, as that is the most popular New Year’s resolution among Americans. As a law of attraction life coach, many of my clients come to me for this very issue. It isn’t enough just to set an intention and visualize yourself as thin and fit. Intentions and visualizations are very powerful, however much of the time, without clearing old habits and or emotional triggers, we fall into the same conditioned responses of stress eating, boredom eating or eating foods that comfort us as opposed to nourishing us.
One technique that has amazing results with weight loss is EFT. Quoting Gary Craig, founder of EFT: “Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) is an emotional, needle free version of acupuncture that is based on new discoveries regarding the connection between your body’s subtle energies, your emotions, and your health. EFT has been reported successful in thousands of cases covering a huge range of emotional, health and performance issues. It often works where nothing else will.” I, personally, have had countless success stories in using it for a variety of ailments, blocks, emotional issues and weight loss.
When I do a session of EFT, we first look at the surface of the issue or emotion that is causing the concern. We tap the acupressure points on that issue, then we delve a little deeper and tap on other stored emotions that could be the underlying cause of the current situation. I have seen resistance or blocks clear with as little as one session using this technique. One observation that I have noticed is that we can feel or think in our mind that we are clear of an issue or a past hurt, but many times it’s still locked up in our emotional, energetic bodies, and unless we clear it there, it will remain within us causing us problems throughout our lives. EFT is a miraculous tool in releasing stored emotional wounds and blocks!
Living your truth!
12 Feb 2010 1 Comment
in Law of Attraction, Self Discovery, Soulmate Attraction, Uncategorized, Unconditional love
Living your truth can be a scary proposition. It brings up questions of security and love, if I speak and live my truth will I be abandoned by those I love? Is that a chance I want to take? It brings back memories of childhood, where we got what we wanted by pleasing other people. Then it became a vicious cycle of hiding who we were and sacrificing our needs for others, so that we could gain their love, and acceptance.
We are conditioned to believe that if we speak up for what we need/want, especially women, we will rock the boat, cause friction, and/or lose the love of someone close to us. We worry that we will be misunderstood and we worry how others will be able to handle our authenicity. But rather than worrying about those around us and how they handle our truth, embracing our authenticity can be very rewarding and empowering, because ultimately it’s our life to live, not theirs. The only job that the people around us have is to honor their truth. Then this leads to the question we should ask ourselves: “How much do I love myself? Do I love myself enough to honor the truth of who I am, what I want in life, what I want in a partner, etc? ” If we are living authentically the universe can only support us. It’s when we live unauthentically that we run into all sorts of relationship problems.
I have to admit when I come to a crossroads of whether to attempt to get my needs met which means openly communicating those needs and risking what I do have, or going with the flow of how a relationship is progressing (or not progressing) when it’s obviously not serving my best interest, then I battle with myself. Thoughts of “you will lose this thing you have together”, which isn’t what I totally want, but it’s something better than nothing” come across my mind. It’s only when I come to the realization that the universe is acommodating and will give me what I want and need, but first I have to make the decision to not settle. It’s when we reclaim our higher self, be authentic and live our truth that life will unfold with little drama and by effortless means. If only we could have faith in this process we would be in alignment with the universal truths and we would connect soul to soul with others who are living authentically and life would be much more fulfilling and magical.
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